I was watching “I Am A Killer” on Netflix this morning, and a notorious drug dealer and murderer spoke about the many factors that contributed to his life of crime.
He mentioned one of the most significant contributors was his ex-wife and lifelong partner. He blamed her for not challenging his ill-fated choices (Think Tasha, in the first 4-5 seasons of the original Power series).
Herein lies the point of this post.
While so many of my male counterparts post their desires for submissive women who won’t challenge their leadership roles (to which they presume to be entitled to simply for having male sex organs), they neglect that in most cases, it won’t serve them well.
Loyalty doesn’t necessitate agreement.
If someone you love is f*cking up, being loyal means not only disagreeing with it but adamantly standing against it, especially when it is detrimental to your union.
So, while supporting his street hustle and the inherent violence, she not only contributed to her longtime boyfriend-turned-husband’s downfall, she set their child up to follow his example, eventually finding himself behind bars as well. She loved being loved by him so much that she didn’t confront him, even when she knew it would be disastrous for their entire family. I’m not saying he isn’t responsible for his bad choices; I’m saying that, according to him, she didn’t help. However, he chose her, right? (You know, like how we tell women to choose better instead of telling men to be better.)
The moral of the story is that you find someone who inspires and encourages you to be your better self. Accountability is an act of love, and silence is a form of condoning. A man can gain or lose a lot from the company he keeps, and rarely is someone closer than the woman you choose, so choose wisely.
