Why do I attract the same type of guy?— From Looking for love
Dear Looking For Love,
As much as I would like to give you information specific to you and your situation, but unfortunately, without having much context about you or the type of man you continuously attract, it’s difficult to cater this response to you.
In most instances when women ask me this type of question, it’s usually because the type of men they are attracted to or attracting to them is not necessarily the type of man they need or desire. These men typically are not stepping up to the plate nor committing in the way she desires.
With that usually being the case, here are a few reasons why women tend to attract the same type of men.
1) Hate to say this to you, but your choice in men lies within you. There is an unconscious reason why you are attracting the same type of man. It could be based on a familiar male figure from your childhood. Now, that male figure from your childhood may not necessarily represent anything positive, yet you are unable to detach your desire from that prototype.
2) You may also be attracting the same type of man because you fear the unknown. You would rather stick to what you know, even if it causes you heartache and pain. Women tend to be comfortable being unhappy than to venture out and try something or someone different. As the saying goes, you would rather stick to a devil you know than the devil you don’t know… But who is to say the one you don’t know is even a devil at all??
3) Another reason you could be attracting the same type of man is because you are drawing to you that which you are. Just to piggy back a little bit on what the Bible states, as a man think, so is he. Like tends to attract like, so if you are questioning the type of man you are attracting, it would behoove you to look inward and determine what you need to address to and change in an effort to attract the man you desire in your life.
Let me know if this helps…
Rachel Davis is a renowned relationship expert. Selected questions will always be published anonymously and the advice will always be real. Send your relationship question along with your age and a short description of the issue to: LoveByRachelDavis@gmail.com.
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